Yesterday was the hottest day in London so far, only a week earlier it had been snowing and hailing throughout the UK and suddenly we had a Sunday that was at 27 degrees Celsius, result!
As you can imagine, everyone was planning to be outdoors somewhere, to make the most of this amazing weather, especially as rain was forecast for today.
Me and my friends arranged to meet in Hyde Park in central London, which in case you don’t know is one of the largest parks in London and covers approximately 350 acres (over 600 if Kensington Gardens are included in it as well!)– it is a very busy tourist hotspot. My friends wanted to sunbathe for most of the day, so I told them I would meet them a little later, not wanting to go even darker than I already am. They said that they would let me know where they are….
When I received their text message, it said “we are by the water…”. In my infinite wisdom, that means I enter by the Hyde Park Corner gate and that they would be by the Serpentine Lake – the popular boating lake and it’s what everyone thinks of when you think of water in Hyde Park…right?
I made my way there and phoned them, it was very crowded, especially by the lake, they said that they were by the deck chairs towards the end of the lake… hmm, there were a lot of those!
Long story short, after walking the length of the boating lake and searching through all the people sunbathing, I couldn't see them. Several phone calls later, I discovered that “we are by the water” meant they were right on the other side, in the Kensington Gardens section by the small – Round Pool!
I decided to walk to them, and nearly an hour later, walking through parts of Hyde Park I had never seen before, and amassing a new personal total steps walked high score according to my phone, I finally reached them. So I was happy for all 3 of the above reasons!
This experience has really got me thinking…. We may mean one thing, and in our own heads it is pretty clear to us what we mean, but unless we are more precise and clear, the other person will interpret what you say according to their own views and life experiences.
But it doesn't just stop at our communication with other people, it can be communication with ourselves too. In my experience with all of my clients, usually the root causes of their issues and problems stem from misinterpretations and not giving or having been given, clear concise instructions.
It affects our relationships – how many times do you or your loved one just expect you or them to know something, without it having been clearly explained? If you loved me, you should know what I want…. I clearly remember, when I was married that our clothes choices for each other as gifts were so off, yet not once did we set the record straight and say, actually I prefer…. Instead, those clothes gifts are probably still gathering dust hidden away in some corner and forgotten about.
What about the Law of Attraction? We are saying one thing during our manifestation processes, yet in normal conversation and thoughts we are saying or thinking something else, usually the polar opposite of what we want to manifest.
We may meditate and visualise, for example visualising achieving our goals, yet deep down we worry about not achieving them. There are many examples where clear concise instructions are not given, that they warrant separate articles which I will be writing soon. But now, the question to ponder on is: where in my life am I not giving clear concise instructions?